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Roberta Steampunk

There are people we meet in life, through business, social situations, family and friends — the ones who are the loud, boisterous people who dominate a room. They speak to hear themselves speak and try to impress anyone who will listen. Then there are the quiet ones. Those who don’t say a lot, but once you get to know them, they awe you with their talent, their intellect, their kindness, and their humanity.

Roberta Niederjohn was one of those quiet ones. She was so amazingly talented with her art, her writing, her Photoshop skills, and her love of animals, that she left you in awe. She was incredibly quiet. Humble. Kind. Gentle.

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So much so, that I didn’t know she passed away a year ago until just recently. She didn’t announce her cancer; not a word was ever said. She didn’t announce her absence from work. Nobody at SDSU, where we were colleagues, ever said a word about her sickness. And sadly, nobody said a word about her passing. She didn’t get the major hoopla those in the power seats get. Not the major news story. Not a single word.

She was one of the most gentle souls I had the privilege of working with. A kindhearted human who did not speak ill of anyone. She loved animals, probably more than humans — but what sentient human doesn’t?

Roberta won many awards at the Del Mar Fair for her artistic endeavors.

Roberta, you were loved, admired and appreciated more than you know.

Top photo: Roberta received an Honorable Mention at the 2014 San Diego County Fair for this Photoshop portrait of herself in a Steampunk fantasy land. She titled it “Madame Awaits Her Airship.”

Bottom photo: Kim Lamke Calderon, Sharon Penny, and Roberta Niederjohn after presenting at the SD/PEN Program Meeting in July, 2014.

 

 

 

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Wall of windows at night

Wall of windows at night

 

I saw this couple’s funky cabin design on Houzz and am intrigued with this idea. We have a funky garage/shed outbuilding that I use for jewelry making and other projects, along with storage. I desperately want more natural light. I thought about removing the garage door (we’ve never parked a car in it) and putting in glass french doors. However, seeing this makes me realize I could use reclaimed windows. Click on the image below to see the full Houzz article. What do you think? Too funky/rustic, or a fabulous idea?

JobBurnout

 

I think most of us have been there, especially when you’ve been in a job for a long time. Job burnout.

I found this article by Michael Broder to be filled with some common-sense tips. Only three, but they are important to remember. And there comes a time when you have to choose the third option. Remember, it’s your life (a short life, too) and if you find yourself dreading going to work each day, it really is time for a change. Of course, you have to be practical, but change can be a good thing.

Let me know if you’ve experienced job burnout and how you dealt with it. I’m curious to know what others have done.

Enjoy your Friday!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michael-s-broder-phd/work-burnout_b_3863001.html

Article reprinted from The Huffington Post below:

3 Tips for Conquering Job Burnout

Posted: 09/13/2013 8:22 am

 

 

 

Can you relate to the following scenario? You once approached your work in a dedicated, passionate and enthusiastic way. You were eager and excited about your responsibilities. While you were aware that there are built-in frustrations in your work with coworkers, clientele, or the system itself, you felt that you were making an important contribution to your organization and/or field. But gradually, you’ve begun to feel a sense of stagnation. This has slowly led to feelings of apathy, to the point that it’s become difficult even to feel motivated anymore. But since it’s not in your nature to give up or stop trying, your apathy causes an internal conflict that brings upon feelings of cynicism, depression, hopelessness and low self esteem related to your job, career or profession. If this description resonates with you, it’s likely you are experiencing job burnout.

 

It’s important to realize that not just anyone experiences burnout. To get burned out, you must first have been “on fire.” People who go to work just to get a paycheck are rarely the ones who get burned out. It’s those who once connected with their work from a place of passion but are now no longer intrinsically motivated at work that generally experience the pain of burnout. Burnout can be a great signal that something needs to change.

 

Here are three tips to get your job burnout under control, to reconnect with your passion and restore your positive attitude about work:

 

Stop devaluing yourself — Burnout can occur when you’re not feeling valued by others but even more often occurs when as a result you devalue yourself. Take a few minutes to jot down the reasons you entered your field in the first place. Who are you really committed to serving? Also write down how your current role makes an impact, whether on other coworkers, clients, students, your family, or other people in your life. Sometimes to feel like you’re pressing the reset button, you just need to take a step back, remind yourself of your contributions — big or small — and recommit to the mission you chose for yourself. Often trying to please the “powers that be” and getting hung up on their approval makes you to lose that perspective.

 

Take back control — Almost every job has a variety of characteristics that are not your choice. These factors may include hours, bosses, coworkers, certain aspects of those you serve or the salary. But there are also factors you do have control over that you may not be taking ownership of when feeling burnt out. For example, if there are certain tasks that are more enjoyable for you than others, maybe you can focus on job tasks that emphasize your strengths and delegate those tasks that do not fit as well with your preferences. If there is a specific aspect of your job that you can identify as being something that once fulfilled you but no longer does, perhaps there are changes that can be made to reactivate this element of your job. But even if these things are not possible, you can refuse to let negativity control this important part of your life. And then switch to problem solving mode. The problem: How do I restore that crucial passion I once felt for my work?

 

Consider a change — If you’re truly powerless to change circumstances at work, a career or job change may be in order to bring you back to your zone of passion. My book, Stage Climbing: The Shortest Path to Your Highest Potential, is resource to help you find a career that will quickly reignite your passion. As a bonus, I have seen with many people who have consulted me, that when your work coincides with your passion, financial success follows — often effortlessly.

 

The longer you wait to address your job burnout, the more likely it is that your apathy will spread to other areas of your life, including your relationships and even hobbies. So if you’re experiencing burnout, nip it in the bud, quickly!

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I have always been an introvert, and I am also shy. Many people would assume those two things are equal, but they really aren’t, as explained in the attached article.

I’m getting better at my shyness – I’ve had to working as long as I have. My introversion, however, is innate and it is who I am.

At a pool party yesterday with family members, this was a topic of conversation. We were discussing various family members who are introverts but not shy, and even one member who is an extrovert but IS shy. That seems like an odd combination, but we have someone who fits that bill (you know who you are).

The key is for all of us to understand who we are, be the best we can be without trying to change those innate attributes, and accept each other. After all, the world needs the talents that each of us bring.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/07/29/introvert-myths_n_3569058.html?utm_hp_ref=healthy-living&ncid=edlinkusaolp00000008

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This week has been very challenging for our family. A story not for me to tell, but nonetheless it has shaken our world and brought us all back to what truly matters.

Today I read this article which made perfect sense to me: finding the joy in every day, even the crappy days. Because even the crappy days are here on earth, and that’s something to celebrate and thank the powers-that-be.

One piece of advice from this article that I’m going to try upon meeting new people: instead of asking them “what do you do?” ask them: “what do you like to do?” Big difference. I don’t know if that kind of question is confined to our culture, but finding out what someone likes to do as opposed to what they do to survive can open up some real human conversations.

So tell me, what do YOU like to do?

And let me know what you think about Laura Munson’s article from The Huffington Post about finding the joy in every day.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-munson/friendship-5-nice-things_b_3417946.html

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